Monday, July 7, 2008

Dusting Vampires

I don't know why I have such a hard time understanding this concept, but there are some people who will just never be happy.

No. Matter. What.

They want more that you can possibly give. You could open every vein in your body and it still wouldn't be enough.

To top it off, they tend to be emotional vampires. Sometimes I think it would be easier if they were actual vampires. A stake to the heart and a broom to clean up the mess and the problem would be solved. Unfortunately, real life doesn't allow for any great Buffy moves.

However, real life does allow for speaking your mind and standing up for yourself. If you're a confrontation avoider like I am, it's awful, but it can be done. And I'm pleased to say, I recently did it. Unfortunately, I'll be experiencing the fallout for some time to come, but I believe the end result will be worth it. Life is too short for toxic people.


Molly Daniels said...

I too avoid confrontation. But ultimately there comes a time when we just have to take a stand or risk losing a part of ourselves.

How's your summer going?

Sandra Cox said...

I'm sorry you were in a less than pleasant situation. I'm a non confrontational person too unless my back is to the wall. I went to a seminar once that sounded much like your blog. She said negative people were vampires that sucked away your happiness and should be avoided.

Margaret Yang said...

I also believe that happy people and toxic people don't stick. They are just so fundamentally incompatible that sooner or later, they will leave each other's orbit. Unfortunately, you had to fling this one away!

And fallout will come, but they will be meteors. Maybe you can get a metaphorical deck chair and watch the show. "Oh, gee, look, another falling star."

Anny Cook said...

Blessings on your day, kid. Hang in there.

Phoenix said...

I'm so proud of you!!! There is nothing like a good purge of toxicity. You deserved better anyway.

Sandra Cox said...

Hey Bron, just wanted you to know I'm thinking about ya:)

Anny Cook said...

So... ya still there? Hello?

How's life treating you today? Good? Not so good? We're getting worried here. Just come up for breath long enough to say "Help!" or something equally brilliant!

JacquƩline Roth said...

Sorry it was so hard. I'm not a nonconfrontational person and have been known to tell others to "get off the cross, we need the wood." I'm not a big one for letting others suck me dry.

Sommer Marsden said...

am v. late for the party. v sorry :( but you are totally right. i dusted all my toxic emotional vampires years ago and never looked back. and now when they sneak up on me from angles i do not expect, once i realize what's going on, i dig out trusty mr. pointy and bam! gone, baby, gone.