Oh, pet peeves…I have them. I’m pretty laid back most of the time, but there are some things that really bug me. Some are minor and no big deal and don’t affect me all that much if at all, and others infuriate me to no end and make me want to severely limit my time with people who do these things.
The Minor Ones:
Socks and sandals (or mandals, as one of my “adopted” sons calls them) - My uncle used to wear socks with his Birkenstocks all the time and it drove me insane. My adopted son did the same thing. If it’s not warm enough to wear sandals without socks, it’s not warm enough to wear sandals. The end.
People who don’t put toilet paper back on the spindle and instead leave it on the counter to fall into the sink that drips constantly. I’m convinced that this is an affliction that affects only men since I’m the only one in this house that can actually manage to change the roll properly.
When the underwire pokes through my bra – especially if it’s my favorite. I can mend a lot of things, but I’ve never found an effective way to fix this.
When companies discontinue a product I love. Most recently it was my favorite coffee creamer and my aforementioned favorite bra. Now, I’m on a Holy Grail type searches for replacements for both items. The quest is not going well.
The Important Ones:
I’m of course irritated by the biggies – bigotry, cruelty, shaming, etc, but these are some other more specific things that I’ve dealt with that just send me over the edge.
People that refuse to apologize and just pretend their shitty behavior never happened. This burns me up more than I can possibly tell you. If you do something shitty like bite someone’s head off either in person, email or phone call own it and apologize. The person you were an ass to may not call you on it, but believe me, s/he will remember. And it will affect your relationship.
People who are pathologically competitive. I’m not talking about a little professional jealousy - we all feel a twinge of it from time to time, but we still have genuine happiness for the people in question. I’m talking about the people who only feel good about themselves if they feel like they’re doing better than other people – even their friends. It doesn’t matter what it is – hobbies, business, weight loss, exercise, whatever – as long as they perceive that they’re out performing the other person, it’s fine.
The minute their friend might start to excel in an area, that person competitiveness and jealousy comes out in an ugly way.
Revisionist Historians. These are the people who even if you were both involved in an event have constructed a completely different version of what happened, and bonus! They believe it. Now, no two versions of anything will ever be identical – our perceptions color our experience of everything. I’m talking about when the actual facts change. Hell, some people change their story from telling to telling.
Condescending People. Yes, I may be a little flighty sometimes, but I’m not stupid, so don’t roll your eyes at me or talk down to me. Or anyone else for that matter. That’s just bullshit.
People who lack empathy. I’m talking about the ones that are dismissive or disdainful of other people’s worries, fears etc. because they lack an inability to put themselves in other people’s shoes and remember that not both of you have the same life experiences and therefore something that was no big deal to you might be a very big deal to them.
Soooooo...those are mine. What are some of yours?
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