tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post5896794849233021157..comments2023-12-25T05:37:14.875-08:00Comments on Bronwyn Green's Random Thoughts : Newsflash – I’m Fat!Bronwyn Greenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-71556638885556752082013-01-09T13:32:40.250-08:002013-01-09T13:32:40.250-08:00My soul sister... yes, I waited this long to say a...My soul sister... yes, I waited this long to say anything because I am STILL RAGING. Seriously....RAGING. And there isn't much else to say that hasn't been said. People are mean. It's a sad truth. <br /><br />It's like Hollywood. You never hear about the celebrities that are well adjusted. The ones who have a family and just 'act' as a job. The ones who don't crash their cars or steal stuff. Those represent the majority of nice people. It's the total fuckups that make their presence known....<br /><br />A good friend once told me, that when someone says something hurtful to you it's because they're really looking in a mirror and are angry with themselves. They can't see past their own issues and lash out to make themselves feel better...not sure if it's true, but this bitch obviously has issues.<br /><br />And had I been there, shockingly, I would have called her out. But then I'm Canadian, hee hee....okay, so it's not because I'm Canadian, I'm just secretly bitchy to stupid people.<br /><br />It's also sad that physical appearance has become the new item to bully. When will folks stop judging by what size you are and look for what's far more important? Who needs a zombie apocalypse when you already have undead working in the service industry? <br /><br />Hugs from Canada, honey. Hang in there. You are gorgeous...and if one bitch can't see that then she's got more issues than anyone else.Kris Norrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11993030557412044608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-20975252907166369172013-01-03T21:11:10.375-08:002013-01-03T21:11:10.375-08:00great plug in, so far, let you know if i still thi...great plug in, so far, let you know if i still think so in a month or so. <br /><a href="http://findmyspace.in/" rel="nofollow">odisha real estate</a><br />odisha real estate, Properties in Bhubaneswar, Bhubaneswar Real Estate Properties, flat for sale in Bhubaneswar, Apartments in Bhubaneswar, Real Estate in Bhubaneswarhttp://www.findmyspace.in/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-49665127265131496852013-01-01T13:16:01.298-08:002013-01-01T13:16:01.298-08:00@ Chris - I'm curious too - very curious. *HUG...@ Chris - I'm curious too - very curious. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Simone - Thanks. My hope is just that she never says anything like it again. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Donna - I *don't* understand people. At all. I cannot imagine people making comments about you. Run them all over!!! *HUGS*Bronwyn Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-18991512951154912282013-01-01T10:36:44.600-08:002013-01-01T10:36:44.600-08:00You know, Kiddo, to my mind this is a societal pro...You know, Kiddo, to my mind this is a societal problem that falls into the same realm as bullying and the increasing lack of basic good manners. <br /><br />I hope you know that if those asses (and I mean no disrespect to donkeys) hadn't spit their venom toward you, they would have aimed for someone else for some other reason. It was going to come out.<br /><br />I have been in a wheelchair for most of my life. There was a time when if kids would stare, the parents would correct them. Now the parents stare, too, and some even make comments about "cripples".<br /><br />Being a sweet and gentle soul,this "cripple" usually runs over their toes with the wheels of my chair. Oops! Just a little reminder to watch what you say!<br /><br />The attitude of building oneself up by tearing down someone else -for any reason- needs to be addressed on a national level. <br /><br />Love you,<br />Donna<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11321441847501435211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-20454117999957591552013-01-01T08:11:06.049-08:002013-01-01T08:11:06.049-08:00((hugs)) What a B***H. That was completely unprofe...((hugs)) What a B***H. That was completely unprofessional and uncalled for. She needs more than a little sensitivity training. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. ((hugs)) Simone Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02553461005057534548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-14087514334930145052013-01-01T07:24:08.449-08:002013-01-01T07:24:08.449-08:00I'm really glad that you contacted the manager...I'm really glad that you contacted the manager at the Y. I'm curious what sort of response you'll get.<br /><br />Also, *BIG HUG*.<br /><br />And it boggles my mind that people say that sort of crap. Grrr.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12959009113795804133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-71689262709532270962013-01-01T06:38:22.768-08:002013-01-01T06:38:22.768-08:00@ Margaret - Thank you, Pickle. It sucked, but I&#...@ Margaret - Thank you, Pickle. It sucked, but I'm hoping some sensitivity training comes out of it and that you know...it sticks. *HUGS*Bronwyn Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-69556321972371086502013-01-01T06:36:51.173-08:002013-01-01T06:36:51.173-08:00@ Nina - I"m so sorry that your mom said thos...@ Nina - I"m so sorry that your mom said those things to you and that other people have too. It's not okay. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Cheryl - Thanks, honey. If there's ever a next time, hopefully I can say something right then. I'm working on it, anyway. Also, I miss you. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Stephanie - Thank you. So much. I'll let you know when/if I hear back from them. <br /><br />@ Amber - I don't get it either. At all. And thank you. *HUGS*Bronwyn Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-435699669869124162013-01-01T06:24:10.737-08:002013-01-01T06:24:10.737-08:00I am so sorry that happened to you! ::::hugs::::I am so sorry that happened to you! ::::hugs::::Margaret Yanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06464624057491288244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-52367134236327800932013-01-01T03:02:55.786-08:002013-01-01T03:02:55.786-08:00Holy Shit! I can't believe people can be that ...Holy Shit! I can't believe people can be that cruel. Well, yes I can, but seriously. I don't understand it. I don't give a crap about what a person looks like. It's what's on the inside that matters.<br />You, my friend are a beautiful person inside and out. <br />I'm glad you wrote the Y. I would've done the same thing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05244564493291133822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-56648127367699426262012-12-31T22:14:22.961-08:002012-12-31T22:14:22.961-08:00Bronwyn, I am so sorry this happened to someone wh...Bronwyn, I am so sorry this happened to someone who is so loving and acceptable of others. I want to smack the living sh** out of this person. Rudeness is NEVER acceptable. Good for you contacting the Y management. This makes me want to cancel my membership in protest.<br /><br />Hugs and more hugs!<br />Stephanie Michels, authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10766140500207764177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-33872216856441678722012-12-31T20:04:24.462-08:002012-12-31T20:04:24.462-08:00"Or maybe they’re just self-aggrandizing pric..."Or maybe they’re just self-aggrandizing pricks who bolster their own sense of self-worth with cruelty." Nail on the head. If they hadn't said something about your weight, it would have been something else. Your clothes, your car, the time of day.<br />There is NO EXCUSE for such insensitivity. None. And I'm so sorry you were hurt. But, yeah you for standing up and reporting it. Next time, you'll have the power to say your thoughts to their face.<br />The world can change one step at a time. Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13455712281979335283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-27385715592339589012012-12-31T19:56:10.889-08:002012-12-31T19:56:10.889-08:00That is just effing terrible. I was raised by a mo...That is just effing terrible. I was raised by a mother who called me fat for the first time when I was about eight, even though I weighed about normal. This still haunts me. AndI'm still pretty normal. Things people say can really haunt you.<br /><br />My ex-boyfriend was big and I loved him for everything he were, not his weight (though I constantly hated MYSELF for not being skinny). I could hear people whisper when we were shopping but never had the guts to tell them to go play on the freeway.<br /><br />Just try to remind yourself that these people are not even worthy of your time, and that you're a great person. I know we think that, anyway.Ninanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-7280985448535978322012-12-31T18:59:48.705-08:002012-12-31T18:59:48.705-08:00@ Mia - I'm so sorry that this sort of thing h...@ Mia - I'm so sorry that this sort of thing has happened to you, too. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Debby - I suppose we all need to start speaking up - hard as that is. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Susan - the sad this is (well, one of the sad things) the chick at the Y was actually older than me. I guess age doesn't always bring wisdom. *HUGS*<br />Bronwyn Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-21144934880762398032012-12-31T17:43:51.515-08:002012-12-31T17:43:51.515-08:00I cannot believe that people have the nerve to say...I cannot believe that people have the nerve to say those things. I would totally have said something back to make them feel really badly.<br /><br />I am glad that you complained about the girl at the Y - she was completely unprofessional and should be taken off the desk if that is the way she deals with people.<br /><br />((((((hugs)))) <br /><br />Mean people totally SUCK.SusanRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07139270715006822223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-53360791753868593862012-12-31T17:37:47.290-08:002012-12-31T17:37:47.290-08:00Having been thin and now fat, I share your pain. ...Having been thin and now fat, I share your pain. I do sometimes feel as if I am invisible. too dumb to acknowledge. I personally feel there is a lot of prejudice against usDebbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08516477616699255278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-54278043724253446732012-12-31T17:05:39.797-08:002012-12-31T17:05:39.797-08:00Those kinds of things have happened to me too. I a...Those kinds of things have happened to me too. I am really tired of people-- strangers and family, but hardly ever friends-- saying things to me (and, sometimes when I am walking down the street,throwing things at me)... Here's the kicker: for as fat as I am, I used to be a whole lot fatter. I have to check the homicidal rage when someone gives me the same lecture they've already given me about how my weight is going to kill me any minute now when they know I've dropped 50 pounds already. Here's the deal, people: it's not actually possible to just stop being fat. There's really NOTHING I can do that would make me look thin tomorrow or next week or next month, and acting like I am just refusing to be thin makes me feel makes me angry. And hurt. And sad. Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13198019013774536934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-53197577257688331942012-12-31T16:42:37.722-08:002012-12-31T16:42:37.722-08:00Thank you so much to everyone who's commented,...Thank you so much to everyone who's commented, retweeted, etc. I'm hugging you all. I'm a hugger. And I really appreciate the the support - more than I can possibly express. <br /><br />@ Wendy - I'm still waiting to hear back. We'll see if they respond. I love the commentary on the size of their minds. Thank you for that. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Jen - Eloquent (and right) as always. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Carolline - Oh honey - I think I would have totally cried. The thought of someone being pushed over the edge is actually what made me the angriest. I have the best friends and support system ever - what about the people that don't? *HUGS*<br /><br />@ BA - OMG!!!! Someone said that to you?!?! What a freaking HAG!!!! I'm horrified for you!!!! I'm so glad you complained!!! *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Midnyte Reader - I don't necessarily want her to lose her job, but damn she needs some sensitivity training. And an infusion of common sense. I need to remember (and probably practice saying) your friend's saying. :D *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Kelsey - Thank you for being willing to rip her a new one. I've decided that if they don't respond by Thursday, I'm calling. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Julia - Thank you, honey. I promise, I'll suck it up and call if I don't get a response. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Serenity - Ah my favorite...are you sure you should be eating that. That was a Grandma comment. I remember it well... grrrr *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Phoenix - Diet advice at the register?!? I knew there was a reason I use the self checkout. And OMG, I think my head would explode if I heard someone say the sex/dating thing. I'm horrified and furious for you!!! *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Tali - I'm so glad you got rid of him. He clearly didn't deserve you. At all!!! I love that saying "Mean doesn't age well." It's so true! *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Brynn - You're absolutely right - there are far more kind and loving people out there and I'm lucky enough to have so many of them in my life. Rotten fruit aside, I'm so, SO lucky. And thank you for your support - seriously. :) *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Anny - I need to memorize that so it's one the tip of my tongue. Thank you, Anny-girl. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Kirsti - Thank you honey - I'm totally accepting those hugs. *HUGS*<br /><br />@ Molly - I'm so glad you've had nice shopping experiences - no one needs to be treated poorly when they're trying to find something they don't hate to wear. *HUGS*Bronwyn Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-66735069462751637092012-12-31T15:41:05.993-08:002012-12-31T15:41:05.993-08:00The only people I've heard comments from conce...The only people I've heard comments from concerning my weight has been from my family. Even during my last shopping spree at a boutique, when I expressed the fact I'd 'outgrown' even their plus-size racks, the two women helping me very kindly pointed out some of their clothing runs small, and it wasn't my fault. Then expressed happiness when I found something that DID fit!<br /><br />I'm with the majority. If the people you encounter never heard the 'if you can't say something nice' phrase, or are that bad mannered, then don't sink to their level; just tell them to mind their own damn business. And I'm soooooooo glad you complained to management at the Y!!! That remark was COMPLETELY uncalled for.Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-67756639659742342012012-12-31T15:40:26.820-08:002012-12-31T15:40:26.820-08:00I'm so furious I can't come up with anythi...I'm so furious I can't come up with anything more profound than people suck ass. I'm sending hugs from afar!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10597919348351009552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-34752850714231467872012-12-31T15:30:09.688-08:002012-12-31T15:30:09.688-08:00Blessings on you, Bronwyn. I have BEEN there. All ...Blessings on you, Bronwyn. I have BEEN there. All of the above situations and some not even mentioned. Here's my usual answer--delivered with a very serious expression on my face. <br /><br />"When I married I weighed 89 pounds. Back then I never imagined I would look like this. But time moves on. Health and age changes us. Someday down the road, you'll look like me. How will you feel when someone talks to you the way you talked to me?"anny cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03769733659120481918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-21724406754912631502012-12-31T14:42:41.123-08:002012-12-31T14:42:41.123-08:00I am beyond furious about this. You are the sweete...I am beyond furious about this. You are the sweetest person in the world and no one deserves to be treated like this. I was so freaking horrified when you called to tell me!!!! That overpriced organization is losing more than your membership today. They lost my family's and my mom's and possibly that of other people in the area who hear about this.<br />I think I too am going to go with Jen on this. "Fuck people. Seriously." Some thin (and not so thin) people are so freaking holier than thou yet they have horrible habits, not the least of which is having ugly souls. Just remember, there are many kind, loving, good people out there. More of them than the meanies. Unfortunately, the hateful people are the ones who stab and destroy with their words and make the bigger impression--like the one rotten apple in the big bowl of fruit. Brynn Paulinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12026381921363611389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-6515772446437171802012-12-31T14:29:27.055-08:002012-12-31T14:29:27.055-08:00I'm sorry that person was so ignorant and thou...I'm sorry that person was so ignorant and thoughtless. :( I'm fat, too. <br /><br />I can't say I've run into a lot of grief over it, except for my first husband, who did just what you describe with the couple and the dress, except he did it to my face--after I'd lost 40 pounds and thought I looked great. I divorced him a year later. Why be married to someone who makes you feel bad about how you look even when you look good? He had fat issues and, well, I have fat.<br /><br />I also have brains, good manners, respect for others, and the respect of others. That's the best revenge. Mean doesn't age well.<br /><br />Good for you in complaining. If nothing else, that clerk needs sensitivity training. A reprimand might sink in, and we can hope so, because she's probably not evil... but at least you've let her bosses know how you felt about being treated so rudely. She and they needed that.<br /><br />Have a happier 2013!Tali Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01580510151991448014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-87712051203060867432012-12-31T14:25:21.794-08:002012-12-31T14:25:21.794-08:00Or flatten themselves against a wall when you walk...Or flatten themselves against a wall when you walk by, or point, or laugh, or sneer, or offer you diet advice at the register (more than once), or ask you if you know how many calories are in something, or make you feel like you have to explain your cart when you load up to check out, or says shit like, "You'd be pretty if you weren't so fat" (yes, thank you family and strangers alike), or stares at your stomach or ass or anything else. :(<br /><br />I know this well. And I too have the bambi look when it happens because it's hard to believe someone can be so mean when you don't have that kind of mean living inside you too.<br /><br />My "favorite" to date? No one wants to have sex or date a fat girl. You should lose weight so men will have you. --- yeah, that still pisses me off.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14947952583116323744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4807393772786883862.post-70870963638677987482012-12-31T14:18:26.821-08:002012-12-31T14:18:26.821-08:00Wow, people suck. I get the "Are you sure you...Wow, people suck. I get the "Are you sure you should be eating that," comments from my mom all the time. Just for the record, I think it's perfectly acceptable to punch all those people in their stupid faces. You look so sweet, who would believe you lashed out in a fit of rage?Serenitynoreply@blogger.com